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Creighton  provides clear, concrete tools for shifting our perceptions and reframing our responses. The result moves couples out of the fear and alienation of “your way or my way” and into a deep understanding of the other that allows for an “our way.”

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/guide-better-relationships/201811/gaslighting-tribe

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/gaslighting

Building Resilience in Children and Teens by  Kenneth R. Ginsburg

Mindful Workbook for Teens by Linette Bixby

I Am Courage by Susan Verde

Resilience: The Science of Mastering Life's Greatest Challenges by  Southwick & Charney

Psychologists and trauma experts Mary Beth  Williams and Soili Poijula offer readers the most effective tools  available for overcoming post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). 

https://youth.gov/feature-article/posttraumatic-stress-disorder-awareness-month?fbclid=IwAR2qzq3_-PYYrwQ8eXuASTODMCmU68ZuOlTGpMoz6jZv4utV-no-Bgr3rnI

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/201811/all-you-should-know-about-narcissistic-love-bombing 

https://www.estherperel.com/blog/letters-from-esther-31-inviting-vulnerability?fbclid=IwAR2tvOe6XuTBZDW3HeDb7gd_1TUkvfRaibmVk39hvHR_w7-F5q05Bybo7Vo

Dr.  Johnson explains that romantic love is an attachment bond, just like  that between mother and child, and shows us how to develop our "love  sense"--our ability to develop long-lasting relationships.

https://www.yourtango.com/heartbreak/still-not-over-your-ex

Loving Bravely is a gentle reminder that you can only love others fully after you learn to love and understand yourself. 

Too Good to Leave Too Bad to Stay -  A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship 

Mastery of Love - A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/rediscovering-love/202203/relationship-prison-can-t-change-you-can-t-live-you-can-t-leave-you?fbclid=IwAR1gxHaPdh1-1mxPjsnuLwpUNejK3zKa9un6MrEJtY5l_UYQnZ8SQS-K4QY

The Gift of Imperfection 

This book explores how we can cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough, and to go to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am sometimes afraid, but I am also brave. And, yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable, but that doesn't change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging. 

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff shows us how to stop blowing things out of proportion, stop worrying about things that might happen (but probably won't), stop obsessing about things we can't change and things that just don't matter--and start living!

https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame?language=en

 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/intimacy-path-toward-spirituality/202105/is-unrecognized-shame-keeping-you-stuck 

Driven to Distraction (book)  

Procrastination. Disorganization. Distractibility. Millions of adults have long considered these the hallmarks of a lack of self-discipline. But for many, these and other problems in school, at work and in social relationships are actually symptoms of an inborn neurological problem: AD, or Attention Deficit Disorder.

Brene Brown on Boundaries:   

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-WpdsRPzKco

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/addiction/addiction-and-the-brain

Another good book: Life Without Ed,  by Jennie Schaefer.

https://cheriemonarch.com/2017/10/21/if-it-were-cancer/ 

Cultural Humility (complete) - YouTube  

Loretta Ross Lecture: "Calling In, Not Calling Out" - YouTube

http://www.kairajewel.com/about-kaira-jewel-lingo

https://www.contemplativemind.org/archives/5325

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kNfKCM92OWM  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bvWRMAU6V-c

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mirror-mirror/202202/four-powerful-lessons-disneys-encanto

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/therapists-education/202201/what-encanto-taught-me-about-vulnerability-and-relationships

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/collective-healing/202201/healing-lessons-encanto

In this book, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, he explains how people communicate  love in different ways, and shares the wonderful things that happen when  men and women learn to speak each other's language.  

Take the quiz:   

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/

https://healthykidshappykids.com/

https://www.npr.org/2020/09/10/911117577/the-pandemic-has-researchers-worried-about-teen-suicide?fbclid=IwAR0I1dQKJEF_J4cJMUjT4Lp9facu0kEOrhJDxXiLGsZEPeMoYuqjgVhUCsI

https://copenotes.com 

The Coffee Bean – This book is purposely written and designed for readers of all ages so that everyone can benefit from this transformational lesson. This is a book and message that, when read and shared, has the power to change your life and the world around you. You just have to decide: are you a carrot, egg, or coffee bean?

The Change Agent - How a Former College QB Sentenced to Life in Prison Transformed His World

https://damonwest.org/

https://www.abcactionnews.com/community/walking-club 

 https://www.google.com/maps/d/u/0/edit?mid=1nL8ar3LxVm7Xj4tJD7i0ZYwmRNuBUa03&ll=27.35984365154924%2C-82.42742202430057&z=8&fbclid=IwAR0CcUtDzmg3sprVaKIj3vKjHwICLY7F6OF6CYGSuBvqzAgoAqb7OEnfIbw  

https://www.facebook.com/groups/469330897365577

 In The UltraMind Solution, Dr. Mark Hyman explains that to fix your broken brain, you must heal your body first.  

Stress Less Accomplish More, by Emily Fletcher

Visit Heartmath.com to learn about EM wave device for breathwork and breathing

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindfulness-insights/201905/5-ways-mindfulness-practice-positively-changes-your-brain

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/nurturing-self-compassion/202105/languishing-in-the-time-covid?fbclid=IwAR2yT7AhU1NeorpTEcpqlpjNCu6o7sQwQPzVdetw4DAh-8yXH8PeYYMTxxs  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a3zPgyvCiJI  

https://www.emdr.com/ 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/practical-mindfulness/202112/avoid-doing-these-three-things-enjoy-the-holidays 

https://www.samhsa.gov/homelessness-programs-resources/hpr-resources/recognizing-holiday-triggers 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-other-side/201706/in-pursuit-happiness-why-pain-helps-us-feel-pleasure

 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/pain-explained/202002/ten-evidence-based-strategies-pain-relief  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=11U0h0DPu7k

Elisabeth Kublar-Ross - On Death and Dying

https://www.psycom.net/depression.central.grief.html

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hope-relationships/202106/7-ways-experience-inner-peace

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/stronger-the-broken-places/201911/6-ways-nurture-your-relationship-during-the-holidays 

https://www.apa.org/monitor/2013/09/natural-fit#

https://www.toptenreviews.com/5-mental-health-benefits-of-walking-from-anxiety-and-stress-relief-to-problem-solving

https://www.webmd.com/fitness-exercise/mental-benefits-of-walking#1

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QwVLObz0MGs 

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3FmX8SBIeco 

Practicing psychologist Guy Winch, Ph.D. offers specific step-by-step treatments that are fast, simple, and effective as mental first aid for battered emotions.

Harvard Study: An Epidemic of Loneliness Is Spreading Across America | Kerry McDonald

The Key to Overcoming Loneliness

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1o30Ps-_8is 

Book:  Man’s Search for Meaning by Victor Frankel 

Article: Love in Action, by Peter Fraenkel

 https://cefc98b5-a4cf-479e-a25c-b8018759cf8a.filesusr.com/ugd/51bb8f_d9061c233ce44b23ba0b43747a6851b7.pdf

https://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/blog/details/1822/love-in-lockdown

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/trust

The New Rules of Marriage by Terrence Real

 https://amp.nine.com.au/article/038ab865-0851-45bb-ba05-f4fbbd2b6fc8  

https://winningeq.com/2021/01/12-leadership-lessons-from-ted-lasso/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-emotional-meter/202104/what-it-really-means-take-care-yourself?fbclid=IwAR0ILWz-DFMmDwPnVLd01tThss2ma9pnDNFlc90VLdH07paPE9yEXhlbpNI

Contemporary relationships are in a state of rapid evolution. These changes can and should empower people with the opportunity to develop partnerships based on their own sexualities, understandings, and agreements. This book explains exactly how you and your loved ones can design your own life and love.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/friendship-20/202103/the-health-benefits-hope

https://davidswindall.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/19/2020/04/PsychToolWorry.pdf

 David  Goggins shares his astonishing life story and reveals that most of us  tap into only 40% of our capabilities. He calls this The 40% Rule, and  his story illuminates a path that anyone can follow to push past pain,  demolish fear, and reach their full potential. 

 https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a29703384/dating-rules-to-follow/ 

Other Books: 

One, Kathryn Otoshi 

Teaches acceptance of each other's differences

Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting , Kenneth R. Ginsburg

CDC article:   https://www.cdc.gov/childrensmentalhealth/features/COVID-19-helping-children-transition-back-to-school.html  

Links for Relationship Myth articles:

 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/rediscovering-love/202008/8-common-myths-about-intimate-relationships  

 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201508/10-common-relationship-myths-and-why-theyre-all-wrong  

 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-psychology-relationships/202105/7-false-beliefs-damage-relationships 

Books:

Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin, Anne Kathryn, MA

Boundaries Workbook, Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

Boundaries and Relationships, Charles L. Whitfield, M.D.

Link to Brene Brown's video on Boundaries:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5U3VcgUzqiI 

In this book, Bill Burnett and Dave Evans show us how design thinking can help us create a life that is both meaningful and fulfilling, regardless of who or where we are, what we do or have done for a living, or how young or old we are.

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, and It's All Small Stuff - Richard Carlson

Imperfect Control: Our Lifelong Struggles With Power and Surrender - Judith Viorst

 https://greatist.com/happiness/science-broken-heart  

 https://psychcentral.com/blog/10-tips-to-mend-a-broken-heart#1 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/i-hear-you/201902/7-essential-psychological-truths-about-ghosting

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ehA_3AgT8HE

https://www.forbes.com/sites/jackkelly/2021/02/17/a-new-study-by-indeed-confirms-that-ghosting-during-the-hiring-process-has-hit-crisis-levels/

Kahlil Gibran’s masterpiece, The Prophet is a collection of poetic essays that are philosophical, spiritual, and, above all, inspirational. 

https://copenotes.com/

https://www.nami.org/Blogs/NAMI-Frontline-Wellness/2021/Documenting-the-Traumas-of-First-Responders?fbclid=IwAR1oiX2SQzOpoVo5usCxyIr7xMe673IGMDUHXPdBVmcDxUTIIeQkA1btKhQ

https://youtu.be/x4xuj8npsek

  https://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/magazine/article/2542/facing-the-waves 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/nurturing-self-compassion/202105/languishing-in-the-time-covid?fbclid=IwAR0nJTyIxVE5UJBRYXPTRxBNoYztdKcUQ5QtRUmAbX3OJyAc9SqlQ3vTvz8

https://www.mindfulnessprograms.com/mbsr-workbook?fbclid=IwAR09dP7oZIZhRoe4CjmAHQG1V0_z7x4PpwI2xzmU8SooU-oAJfNbjvmqY2E

 People do escape high conflict. Individuals—even entire  communities—can short-circuit the feedback loops of outrage and blame,  if they want to. This is a mind-opening new way to think about conflict  that will transform how we move through the world. 

Based on Gary Chapman's book. Here's a link to take the quiz:  https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ 

How bad does a relationship have to be before getting out is the  only answer? Psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum  leads readers from a state of painful ambivalence to a clear sense of  knowing what to do. 

https://www.gottman.com/blog/quiz-negative-sentiment-override/

https://www.bustle.com/wellness/deal-separation-anxiety-from-partner

Don  Gabor helps you strike up a great conversation anytime, anywhere, and  teaches you to learn how to keep the conversation going by asking the  right questions, using body language effectively, and avoiding  conversation pitfalls. 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindful-anger/202008/three-lessons-loss-and-grief

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-courage-suffer/202102/coping-the-one-year-anniversary-the-pandemic?fbclid=IwAR3kTiHpKUtjtl4P_SY-JAaPilyJK4daODU9LkB6ODXq1xya-wntkqDRz04

This  book by Suze Orman, best-selling author, goes beyond the nuts and bolts  of managing money to explore the psychological, even spiritual, power  money has in our lives.  

This book can help you attain more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships.

Don Miguel Ruiz illuminates the fear-based beliefs and assumptions that undermine love and lead to suffering.   "Happiness can only come from inside of you and is the result of your love". 

Stephen R. Covey reveals a step-by-step pathway for living with fairness, integrity, honesty, and human dignity. 

The Care & Keeping of You: The Body Book for Girls by Valorie Schaefer.  In this book you'll find answers to questions about your changing body, from hair care to healthy eating, bad breath to bras, periods to pimples, and  everything in between. 

The Boy's Body Book: Everything You Need to Know for Growing Up YOU by Kelli Dunham.  Author and nurse Kelli Dunham covers everything from body changes to planning for college, giving pre-teen boys the answers they need to prepare for puberty and beyond.  

This book helps answer the endless and perfectly normal questions that preschool, kindergarten, and early elementary school children ask about how they began. Robie H. Harris and Michael Emberley talk about this subject in a reassuring way, mindful of a child's healthy desire for straightforward information.

Grief Works is an optimistic and compassionate handbook  for anyone suffering a loss--from the expected death of a parent to the sudden death of a child or spouse--as well as a guide for those who want to help their grieving loved ones. Death affects us all. Grief is still so misunderstood.  Julia Samuel shows that people need to understand that grief is a process that has to be  worked through, and she shows if we do the work, we can begin to heal.

Esther Perel on Prolonged Uncertainty and Anticipatory Grief

This Youtube video by Ester Perel is so  helpful at this strange time. "We’re dealing with Prolonged Uncertainty—the sense that, not only do we feel uncertain, we don’t know  when our feeling of uncertainty will end..........And Anticipatory Grief, the realization that we could lose our loved ones."  Please take time to watch this, or share with others who may need to hear this.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aCP2kKceMb8

Psychologists at Harvard, the University of Virginia and the University of Washington created "Project Implicit" to develop Hidden Bias Tests—called Implicit Association Tests, or IATs, in the academic world—to measure unconscious bias. With all that's happening in our world, we thought we would share this. Here's the link: https://implicit.harvard.edu/…/us…/agg/blindspot/indexrk.htm 

This recovery book,  by Elyse Resch and Evelyn Tribole is for chronic dieters--and offers a whole new way of eating and making peace with food. This book focuses on nurturing your body rather than on the biology of starvation, and encourages natural weight loss, helping you find the weight you were meant to be.
https://www.intuitiveeating.org/

This intervention guide, from Lakeview Health, is an addiction eBook that is meant for family and friends of the individual who has the addiction disorder.  To download the eBook, click here:   https://www.lakeviewhealth.com/lakeview-health-addiction-resources-florida/family-support-for-addiction-florida/addiction-ebook-and-brochure/?fbclid=IwAR2jvb1dybdi9R_GPMXM5AF00V9cmwHTBVmLdibe19SRWT3mSh1bM43yzV0